AEE 424: How to Quiet the Voice In Your Head by Jumping OUT of Your Comfort Zone

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Do you feel insecure when you speak English?

Is there a big voice in your head that criticizes you?

Does it tell you that you are not good enough?

Or that you cannot speak English?

Today find out about our theory on how you can quiet the critical voice in your head by challenging yourself more, not less.

That voice in your head can make you feel like you can’t be spontaneous or like you are not good enough.

In order to quiet the voice you need to be challenged to a certain level.

The thing that we are doing cannot be too easy.

If it is too easy there is too much time and space in our minds for the voice to show up and start to sabotage you.

If you are repeating the same phrases and words that you have always used then you aren’t using much mental energy on the language.

The trick is to challenge yourself more, not less!

How can you challenge yourself more:

  • Ask yourself, “How can I continue this conversation a little bit longer?” Add one more piece to the conversation to challenge yourself more. Extend yourself just a little bit more.
  • Take something that you already know how to say and think of a new way to say it. Don’t fall back on the same phrases. It’s safe to do that but safety is not always good for you.
  • Think of a new phrasal verb or idiom to replace the word that you always use.

So if you feel that the voice in your head is strong when you speak English it could be that you are not challenging yourself enough.

So put into action some of our tips today and let us know how it goes.

What do you think about this strategy?

Have you tried to implement these tips yet?

Let us know in the comments below.

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  • Challenge yourself MORE by quieting the BIG critical voice in your head :
    1) Stop repeating , think of a new way / phrasal verb /phrase / idiom to say it
    2) Extend /add more information
    3) Toughen up , NOT be sensitive to criticism

  • Molly

    Actually, I feel deep confused that it’s not easy for me to spilt out a natual expression when I speak English. And i also feel anxious that what i said is right or wrong. I have too much idea in my mind ,but it seems it’s hard to say a perfect sentence.

  • TheNotoriousOne

    I used to leave my home 5 minutes before the bus and I always had to wait arround 2 minutes at the bus stop. After this episode I decided to take a risk, challange myself and leave my home 3 min before. I felt so daring and courageous but … I missed the bus 😀

  • Sam Zek

    I totally agree with you, Lindsay and Michelle! This is a very useful method to practice our spoken skill and train our mind. Actually, I always talk with people in different ways and also I love challenging myself, but my friends think I’m weird by jump thinking…

  • @se7enfly:disqus Thanks for listening! I am glad you are challenging yourself

  • @disqus_JbUvPnPXIN:disqus yes a lot of people struggle with that. Listen to the episode again and consider our tips

  • Marilyn Salvat Lago

    Hi, I completelly agree with you both ,I had never thought about that before but actually, I don´t hear this voice when I find myself challenged in some way..nice one. Thanks for that.

  • Marilyn Salvat Lago

    Hi again Lindsay and Michelle, I would like to ask you about the use of the words ´reckon´ and ´guess´. Are they interchangeable or do they have different meanings? Thanks

  • Roman Sokolovsky

    WOW !!! Great podcast ever ! That’s my Jam

  • Muhammad Mustaqeem

    Lindsay: I love your quote “A comfort zone is never a comfortable place to be”. It’s not only motivating for English but other parts of the life as well. Michelle: Your
    presence add value to every part of the PODcast. Thanks guys!

  • @muhammadmustaqeem:disqus Thanks! I find that quote super motivating for all aspects of life, as you said. Thanks for listening!

  • @romansokolovsky:disqus thanks for listening

  • @marilynsalvatlago:disqus thanks good question! We will try to answer this on an episode. It’s a good topic. Basically in the US we don’t use reckon, except for in old Country Western movies. It’s an Australian expression but I believe they mean the same thing

  • @marilynsalvatlago:disqus cool!

  • Muhammad Mustaqeem

    Thanks for the correction.

  • Marilyn Salvat Lago

    Hi Lindsay, Thanks for your reply.
    I´m a Spanish native speaker from Cuba, currently living in London and totally addicted to your podcasts!

    This question came up becouse people in London use the word ´reckon´quite frecuently, and I had never heard this word before.

  • Jinny Le

    Hi Lindsay and Michelle,
    This is my first time listening to your podcast, and it’s a wonderful experience. May i ask how to download the script? Thank you!

  • Yes you can go to

  • Azura Awang